Adult Children

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“When my aunt got sick all of a sudden, I watched my cousins argue and fight about where she would live and who would take care of her. The arguments left deep scars, and their relationships have never been the same. I want us to avoid that.”

Needs of aging parents and adult children

People in their forties, fifties and sixties are finding themselves caught in a financial and emotional squeeze between two and three generations—struggling to cope simultaneously with the costs of caring for aging parents and helping their children pay for college or grandchildren, while funding their own retirement. The stress can be overwhelming.
Assess the Situation As early as possible, talk with your parents about their assets, how they want to live as they age, what kind of health care and lifesaving measures they do or don't want, and who should make legal and medical decisions for them if they are no longer able to handle their own affairs. This may be a difficult and uncomfortable conversation for you and your parents, but answering these questions while there is still time to plan ahead can help you both avoid a lot of problems.
Recovery Coaches are an asset to bridging the communication gap between adult children and their parents. Taking the time to listen to both sides, opens the door to real conversation that takes into account everyone's needs. Often times these conversations are emotionally charged, they are the parent, you are the child. Your roles have been etched in stone, and now they are reversed. A Coach can help you find the language, and help the senior articulate their wants and desires. Most often, a compromise can be reached that satisfies everyone's needs. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, but with time, trust, and willingness, solutions can be found.

Recovery Coaching for seniors is a process of helping an individual find solution to inevitable change.

Change happens even when we do not want it to. We age. We can no longer do certain things that we could when we were young. For many, the acceptance of help and support is too hard, and denial rapidly sets in. Standards lower to accommodate those things that cannot be done alone. For some they know they can no longer do certain life tasks, but are unaware of the opportunities that are available to them to find solution. There are a lot of "what if's" to be considered. These must be in agreement with the thoughts, wishes and values of both the care givers and the Senior.

Good Intentions, even public safety do not give adult children the right to make decisions for the elderly parent.

Recovery coaching works with both parties to find a solution that they all agree to. We work directly with the Senior to find what they want and help them to clearly identify their needs. We also help the Senior to understand the stress the family is put under, and what can and cannot be done. These can be uncomfortable conversations. It is not uncommon for families to have trouble finding a way to express thier concerns.

Emotional Planning is as important as financial planning!

For many, they have their money taken care of and believe that is all that matters. "The important papers are in the closet" is common. The important papers do not help when decisions will have to be made as to how to care for the senior, and the senior has begun to rapidly deteriorate.

What are your concerns?

Talking to a Coach can help you develop strategies that are unique to you. We are an ally and confidant that uses honesty, education, and experience to help you find your way. Call today and change chaos to joy!

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